Look Up

So many people I talk to say that porn and sexual acting out is a way to escape.  It's a way to feel alive for a moment.  It's a way to feel immersed.  It may start with surfing but the pull is like gravity and before you know it there's a site that leads to another site that leads to another site that leads to acting out.  

Look up is a brilliant video that poetically confronts how we relate to our smartphones.     

It highlights how the FOO (fear of missing out) compulsivity may cause us to miss out big time on what matters. 

Lots of meaningful interactions can happen through Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat (just kidding about Snapchat!).  But, let this video sink in.  I wonder how you can apply this video in one way so that you don't miss out on life's most exciting, most amazing experiences.



Alex Lerza

My goal as a therapist, speaker and writer is to help people experience the gift of sexual and relational wholeness. Currently I work at Christian Counseling Center in San Jose as a Marriage Family Therapist, Intern. Though I come from a place of faith I have treated clients from all creeds and orientations. I completed my Master's degree from Santa Clara University in 2012. Because I felt called to the area of sexual wholeness I became an Associate Sex Addiction Therapist in 2013. However, I quickly learned that trauma is the cause for a significant amount of sexual and relational brokenness so I also became certified in two trauma-reduction therapies--Affect Management Skills Training and Affect Centered Therapy (similar to EMDR). PSYCHOTHERAPIST. Trauma and Sexual Addiction. One of my passions is to help people break free from sexual addiction and heal from trauma. With hundreds of hours of training in trauma and sexual addiction, I provide clients a clear path out of addiction so that they may enjoy healthier relationships and lead more focused lives. Couples. I love helping couples discover the gift of a healthy marriage. I excel at teaching couples how to communicate, how to heal from betrayal and how to deepen their level of passion and intimacy. Teens. Being a teen is tough. I enjoy helping teens who struggle to connect with peers, have questions about identity or want to kick a pornography addiction. I also run a 10 week program for teen guys looking for a band of brothers and accountability with sexual compulsivity. Individuals. I believe that everyone has something to offer the world that no one else can. I hate to see depression or anxiety limit a person's ability to make their special offering come alive. I offer clients the compassion, tools and strategies they need to make their mark and fulfill their personal vision.